Happiness

Aristotle’s ethical theory. What Aristotle’s ethical theory is all about is this: he’s trying to show you how to be happy-what true happiness is. Why is he interested in human happiness? It’s not just because it’s something all people want or aim for. It’s more than that. But to get there we need to first make a very important distinction. There are a couple of technical terms: Extrinsic value and intrinsic value.

To understand Aristotle’s interest in happiness, you need to understand this distinction.

Some things we aim for and value, not for themselves but for what they bring about in addition to themselves. If I value something as a means to something else, then it has what we will cal “extrinsic value”. Other things we desire and hold to be valuable for themselves alone.

If we value something not as a means to something else, but for its own sake, let us say that it has “intrinsic value”.

So how does all this relate to human happiness? Well Aristotle asks: is there something that all human beings value and value only intrinsically, for its own sake and only for its own sake? If you could find such a thing, that would be the universal final good, or truly the ultimate purpose of goal for all human beings. Aristotle thought the answer was yes. What is it? Happiness. Everyone will agree, he argues, that happiness is the ultimate end to be valued for itself and really only for itself. For what other purpose is there in being happy? What does it yield? The attainment of happiness becomes the ultimate of highest good for Aristotle.

The next question the Aristotle raises is: what is happiness? We all want it, we all desire it, we all seek it. It’s the goal we have in life. But what is it? How do we find it? Here he notes, with some frustration, people disagree.

But he does give us a couple of criteria, or features, to keep in mind as we look for what true human happiness is. True human happiness should be, as he puts it, complete. Complete in that it’s all we require. Well, true human happiness, if you had that, what else do you need? Nothing.

"Well, true human happiness, if you had that, what else do you need? Nothing."

-Aristotle-

And, second, true happiness should be something that can obtain on my own. I shouldn’t have to rely on other people for it. Many people value fame and seek fame. Fame for them becomes the goal. But according to Aristotle, this won’t work either, because fame depends altogether too much on other people. I can’t get it on my own, without help from other people.

In the end Aristotle says that try happiness is the exercise of reason-a life of intellectual contemplation of thinking.

"And, second, true happiness should be something that can obtain on my own. I shouldn’t have to rely on other people for it."

-Aristotle-

Have you ever tried sleeping with a broken heart?

Crying in the middle of the night.
What else I can do?

No one will ever know the pain I feel inside.

When you’re in a hardest part in your life for the last 8 years,
You have no one to talk to,
You have no one that you can't count on anymore, even your family.

No one even care about you.

Desperately mad but you can’t let it out,
Smile with all that you have left, yet tears are left un-dried.

And though you’ve got so much to say, you’ve bottle it up inside.
Pretending that nothing goes wrong in your life,
Pretending that everything will always going to be fine as it should be.

But as your life goes on, it hurts more in every way.

And deep inside your heart,
You’re perfectly mess.

I’m barely dying.

I can't hide no matter how hard I try.

Hardest Part of My Life #2

Hardest part of my life for the last 8 years.

February 28, 2011
He broke me up.

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March 11, 2011
Met someone.
He's great, I guess.

March 18, 2011
I've got my new job, freelance.
Only work at night (tolong jangan salah persepsi).
I'll get extra money.
Instead of the work's load increased.

Such an epic.
I was so happy.
That time.

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March 28, 2011
My cousin fought me.
I had to get out from the apartment.

March 29, 2011
Someone I've met (refer to March 11, 2011), keeping me at the distance.
Guess why?
Still don't know.

April 1, 2011
Moved to my new 'kost2an'.
In a bad financial condition.

April 2, 2010
Finally I got the reason why he was keeping me at the distance.
He said,
"I'm not ready enough."
"I'll get married once I've got someone that fit me in."

Means, I'm not fit him in.

Why?
"I just don't want to bother u in ur career."
????

What a life..

Siapa yang harus disalahkan?

I'm not perfect, nobody does.
Everybody made a mistake, who didn’t?
Dan yah, kesalahan2 itu tidak akan pernah bisa dilupakan.
Tapi apakah lalu kesalahan2 itu harus terus dan terus diungkit?
Bukankah justu kesalahan yang kita buat itu kita jadikan pelajaran.
Untuk selanjutnya tidak melakukan kesalahan2 itu lagi.
Dan di dunia ini, selama kita hidup tentunya tidak hanya satu kejadian yang terjadi.
Hitung saja dari kita lahir sampe saat ini sudah berapa puluh, ratus, bahkan ribu kejadian yang terjadi?
Tetapi bukan berarti juga di setiap kejadian kita pasti akan melakukan kesalahan, itu bodoh namanya.

Lalu bagaimana dengan kesalahan orang lain yang akhirnya berdampak pula ke kehidupan kita?
Contoh kecil, dalam satu team kerja, jika salah seorang melakukan kesalahan, maka dampak yang akan dirasakan tidak hanya akan dirasakan oleh orang yang melakukan kesalahan tersebut, melainkan berdampak kepada seluruh team. Siapa yang mau disalahkan? Sistem, spv yang salah dalam memberikan arahan, atau mungkin memang human error.
Dan untuk orang2 yang tidak bersalah, bagaimana cara menanggapi permasalahan seperti ini?
Tergantung pada pribadi masing2 orang tsb.

Itu contoh kecil, contoh besarnya.
Dampak yang dirasakan anak saat orang tua melakukan kesalahan.

*hening*

Bagaimana kamu, kalian, sebagai seorang anak menanggapi ini?
Dalam kasus saya, siapa yang harus disalahkan?
Tuhan, karena akhirnya mempertemukan mama dan papa?
Papa, karena kelakuannya?
Mama, karena menikah dengan papa?
Saya sendiri, karena tidak bisa menerima bahwa ternyata sesuatu yang buruk terjadi di kehidupan saya akibat dari ‘broken home’?

Atau orang yang tidak bisa menerima saya apa adanya karena ketakutan akan keadaan keluarga saya yang ‘broken home’?

To be continued..

Regret

3 things that can never be recovered:
the WORD after it’s spoken,
the MOMENT after it’s missed,
& the TIME after it’s gone.

Ego

Yah, as a human, just the same as you guys, I've ever made a mistake.
Hurting people, everybody (ever) does.
My ex, my closest friend, even my family.

But, actually I really didn't mean it.
Some yes (I meant it with some reason)
Some (unfortunately) just because of my ego, my emotion.

That time, gue gak bener2 tau apa yang gue cari.
Temen yang seperti apa, pacar yang seperti apa, bahkan (kadang) mengharapkan keadaan kelurga lebih baik dari sekarang.
I want everything goes perfect.
Best friend forever, Mr.right, Perfect family.
Who doesn’t?

Tapi justru hal2 itu buat gue menjadi "terlalu" menginginkan itu semua.
Ego pun bicara.

Gue menganggap bahwa (saat itu) gue yang paling bener.
Apa yang ada di otakku itu yang paling bener.
Temen yang baik itu harusnya begini lho.
Pacar yang baik itu harusnya begini lho.
Keluarga yang baik itu harusnya begini lho.
Sehingga gue mengesampingkan aspek2 lain dari "baik" itu sendiri.

(Lagian, nobody’s perfect)

Yang akhirnya menyebabkan orang2 di sekitarku tersakiti.
Dan tanpa disadari, it hurts me too.
Yang kadang gue suka gengsi menggukinya.

Yeah, I've lost some of my friends, some of my beloved boy, and being hated by some of my family.

How stupid I was.
gak munafik juga kadang perasaan2 sok bener itu sampe sekarang masih ada di dalam diriku.

Tapi gue gak membenarkan semua orang, orang2 yang pernah bermasalah sama gue, some of them emang ngeselin (teuteup ;p)

Satu kasus yang paling gue sesali, kehilangan orang yang bener2 baik, dan gue bener2 menghancurkan dia.
well, gak 100% salah gue, 50:50 lah.
Semua karena gue yang keterlaluan dalam menilai dia.
Seenak2 jidad gue.
Menurut gue, dia harus begini, begini, dan begini tanpa liat dia sudah berbuat apa buat gue, dan dia sudah gimana ke gue.
Gue anggap dia salah, gue terlalu ketakutan hidup gue nantinya gak akan bahagia, dan banyak ketguetan2 lainnya.

Some people said:

“Sometimes, in life, things u fear the most eventually become reality. And the scary part is: you cannot run from it but to face it”

Dan sekarang itu terjadi di gue, ketakutan itu menggerogoti hidup gue.
Mungkin karena pengalaman2 yang pernah terjadi di dalam hidup gue.
Yang membuat gue gak mau, tepatnya TAKUT gagal dalam hidup.
Bukan masalah laki2 seperti apa yang bersama gue sekarang, tapi masalah bagaimana gue menyia2kan dia yang sangat menyayangi gue.
and I can't take it back, what could be worst?

I regretted it.

Gue hanya bisa berharap dia bisa memaafkan gue, gue hanya berharap dia gak akan membenci gue, hanya berharap dia bisa menemukan kebahagiaannya lagi.
Dan gue, melajutkan hidup, menerima semua konsekuensi yang ada atas segala sesuatu yang sudah menjadi pilihanku.

B.O.B feat. Hayley Williams - Airplanes

Can we pretend that airplanes in the night sky are like shooting stars.
I could really use a wish right now, wish right now, wish right now.
Can we pretend that airplanes in the night sky are like shooting stars.
I could really use a wish right now, wish right now, wish right now.